Week 7 – Good Deal/Bad Deal (BGP night)

We did lots of fun introductory stuff (like decorating our giant underwear) – but here was the meat of our night.

We prayed that:

-We were able to dial in
-We begged God to change us
-To make us better, to make us more like Him

We watched a few “Deal or No Deal” clips like this one, because our “theme” of the night was making good deals – good trades.

Heartbreaking, isn’t it?

I passed out paddles with “Good Deal” written on one side and “Bad Deal” on the other.  I read a bunch of scenarios and the girls had to hold up whether or not it was a “good deal” to them.  No right or wrong answer – all subjective based on what they value.

A few examples:
Is it worth it to you to:

  • Work an unpaid internship for a year to gain experience?
  • Sit on the bench for a year to earn potential playing time?
  • Spend more than $200 on a great prom dress?
  • Spend high school studying to get into college?
  • Get up early to exercise?
  • Get up early to read the Bible?
  • Give up a friend to gain a relationship with a guy?
  • Give up a relationship with a guy to keep a friend?

Our text was Genesis 25: 24-34.

“The boys grew up, and Esau became a skillful hunter, a man of the open country, while Jacob was a quiet man, staying among the tents. Isaac, who had a taste for wild game, loved Esau, but Rebekah loved Jacob.

Once when Jacob was cooking some stew, Esau came in from the open country, famished. He said to Jacob, “Quick, let me have some of that red stew! I’m famished!” (That is why he was also called Edom. )

Jacob replied, “First sell me your birthright.”

“Look, I am about to die,” Esau said. “What good is the birthright to me?”

But Jacob said, “Swear to me first.” So he swore an oath to him, selling his birthright to Jacob.

Then Jacob gave Esau some bread and some lentil stew. He ate and drank, and then got up and left.
So Esau despised his birthright.”

We filled out a family tree to help everyone keep the names straight.

Family Tree (check out hairy Esau!) and paddles.

And then we discussed what a “birthright” is – and exactly how much it was worth!  A DOUBLE PORTION (2/3) of the inheritance, land, livestock, money, family name, honor, etc. etc. etc. etc.  What Esau did would be like trading your wedding ring for a sandwich if you hadn’t eaten all day.  Only – it would REALLY be more like giving up your wedding ring and your college education and your savings account for a sandwich.

We all agreed that Esau made a terrible choice – and that it was plain stupid.

Then I called attention to the fact that we do the exact same thing – daily.

We give up things OF GREAT WORTH, for things that are cheap and temporary.

We trade our purity, our clear conscience, our self-respect, the ability to stand before our husband and say, “I waited for you – no other man has had me;” we trade it all for  – 10 minutes of self-indulgence?  Of lust?  Of pleasure?

We trade our modesty, and let’s face it, consequently our reputation for – popularity?

We trade our parents TRUST in us, our relationship with our family for – 10 minutes of bad attitude?  Anger?  Being “right?”

We trade our future, education, opportunities, passions, skills, talents, gifts and blessings – for what?  Our own laziness?  Because it’s too hard, because it’s not cool, because no one believes in you, because no one in your family has tried?

We trade friendships for gossip?  For sarcasm?  For a grudge?


Don’t trade something precious, something valuable, for something cheap!
STOP TRADING your purity for pleasure. Your testimony for popularity.  Your future for the easy way out.

When you do, you are every bit as short-sighted and foolish as Esau, who gave up his inheritance for a bowl of stew.

We closed with the scripture in Hebrews 12: 16-17

“See that no one is sexually immoral, or is godless like Esau, who for a single meal sold his inheritance rights as the oldest son. Afterward, as you know, when he wanted to inherit this blessing, he was rejected. He could bring about no change of mind, though he sought the blessing with tears.”

Esau shed tears.  That, friends, is regret.  He could do nothing to gain what he’d lost – though he begged with tears.

If you trade your purity for pleasure – you will shed tears of regret.
If you trade your relationships for gossip and popularity – you will shed tears of regret.

Whew.  What a downer of a night.  It was certainly heavy, certainly sobering – but the first step in making wise choices is to take a step back – and recognize our foolish choices for what they are.  Bad deals.  Not worth it.  Stupid trades.  Birthrights for soup.

May we gain an eternal perspective and stop making bad deals!  Truly Big Girl Panty-worthy material.

Five of our precious girls! I love them!


One Response to “Week 7 – Good Deal/Bad Deal (BGP night)”


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